Open Question: My Husband doesn't provide for me and Im frustrated!?

Hi every, my husband has never had an easy time getting and maintaining a job (like many i know). Bounced from one to another. Finally we worked together in real estate a few years. He is still working in that field now, but doesnt make enough money. I think he should receive a 2nd job (i have 3 part time). I help him send resume out to no avail. I send him job listings and they don't work for him. He says he wants to make a quarter million dollars a year. He is working on ??? to receive there. Not sure how. He is 32, and we have no kids (cant afford them), can't pay our mortgage. He says my getting 3 jobs is now motivating him to work, but he was really depressed last year when he turned 32 and even wanted a divorce (can you believe the nerve? now turns out, he was truly depressed and is much happier w/ us, realizing its the financial chaos and mess were in that truly sucks). So... I was seeing a therapist last year when he was depressed, and he told me to work difficult, leave him alone, make nice... and he was helpful in saving our marriage. Today for ex: im home sick w/ icy. I feel like he should be doing more for me. He got me coffee and took me shopping for food and got me soup for lunch out, but then goes golfing every afternoon, and makes a few biz calls and thinks that is work..... Ugg.... frustrated and not sure WHAT if anything I can do... He just knows how to spend spend spend... I suppose i am not helpful in that i also spend too, but now that i am working like crazy, spending much less. I adore him, but can't stand his behavior.

10 Mar 2010, 4:52 pm | click here to view more